January is one of the most popular months for filing for divorce. A natural time to make a fresh start? The stress of the holidays? The reasons may be varied but the fact remains this is the busy season for divorce attorneys. If you are one of the many who find themselves facing divorce, here are some suggested resolutions that you might find useful:
- Make your children a priority – Find extra patience for them. Make extra time for them. Unless there are legitimate concerns for their safety, promote and build their relationship with the other parent (regardless of whether he or she is paying their “fair share” of support.)
- Be kind to yourself – Carve out time for your passion, whether it is the gym, music, reading, cooking or whatever. Challenge yourself to add one new small routine that provides solace and comfort like taking time each morning to read an encouraging quote or a short devotional.
- Be kind to your spouse – This one is often harder said than done but it can be done. If nothing else, find one positive thing that you can say about your (soon-to-be-ex) spouse. Draw on it when needed, particularly when you are trying to make your children a priority.
- Seek wise counsel – Divorce is the perfect storm of emotions, finances and the legal system. Develop and use a support system of friends and family members. Find a professional counselor, if needed. Seek financial advice so that you can make sound business decisions when it comes to dividing marital assets. Retain an attorney who will work with you to ensure that you know your legal rights and are making informed decisions throughout the process. The right professionals can be key to helping you to bring down the tension and stress that naturally accompany divorce.
These resolutions might seem a little tougher than losing that last ten pounds or committing to learn Mandarin Chinese before the end of the year. Having some positive resolutions during your divorce, however, might lead to you more quickly toward a path of healing.
“What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happy New Year from Rudd Law Firm